How to practice self-love

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Self love used to be an elusive phrase to me, I used to feel grossed out by myself and my body and hate myself and feel lots of shame and guilt about the way I acted towards the ones I loved in the past.

I asked spirit to show me what self love was and how it felt. I even asked about it in a Facebook group I was in.

I received many great answers, however none stayed with me as this one: practice saying ‘i love you’ to whatever arises within your awareness.

And so I did. I closed my eyes. “I love you darkness”. All sorts of feelings arose within me “I love you feelings arising within me. I love you skin, I love you touch, I love you body..”.

I continued like this with everything inside and outside of me, until I could feel only love. Forced myself to love everything.

I realized that saying “I love you, Dona” as many times as I could remember to do it throughout the day was more helpful than not saying it at all.

Touching my heart chakra in my chest also helped me connect back to my heart, my center.

The power of self-touch also helped me immensely. Whenever I felt sad, I would caress myself, my skin, my hair, and wherever I didn’t like my body, I would touch and say “I love you” to that part until I could feel it, no matter how shameful or awkward it felt at first.

Taking care of myself and putting myself first, my feel-good, above anyone and anything else, made me know that whenever I am happy, I can also give, but I can’t give from a space of lack. Knowing that helped.

Also learning about non-duality, accepting both the dark and the light within ourselves was important. I realized it’s ok to sit with these darker aspects and feelings and love them, too, as they are a part of me and they won’t go away if I push them away, but they will get alchemized when I accept and embrace them. Just feel it all.

None of us are pure light or pure dark, nothing is just black or white. The Yin and Yang are a perfect example of this. We are not just good or just bad. We must learn to embrace all of our facets, and all the colors between our black and whites.

Self love comes hand in hand with self care. Considering yourself a precious thing that must be given all of the self care possible and taking care that you always feel good might be something you procrastinate on at first, but I promise you, doing something small every day to take care of yourself and your well-being, will, in time, yield beautiful results.

And if no one told you today, you are beautiful!

The way you talk to yourself is also important. Do you call yourself ugly/good for nothing/worthless? That’s not self love. Try changing the way you talk to yourself by picking the highest words possible (that have the highest light in them), even if you don’t necessarily feel they are true. Just pick high vibratory words and keep calling yourself that, even journal them every day and you will see your confidence skyrocket.

Write positive love-letters to yourself, hide them and read them after a month or two, to make a fun game out of it.

Listen to self love music and heart chakra frequencies on Youtube:

Remember, repetition is very important, so repeating newly-forming beliefs every day is also important. For example, Dylan James has affirmations you can listen to overnight for at least 21 night in a row to change your self-concept:

Also, affirming “everybody loves me, everybody thinks I’m cute and amazing” can make you feel more loved, because your teaching your subconscious that you’re also receiving praise, love and appreciation from the exterior.

Even if that hasn’t been the case, you can train your subconscious to think it was, so you never again feel like you lack love from others. Feeling loved can make you feel more self-love, too.

Remember, Divinity always loves you, no matter what you think you did or didn’t do wrong, so just by knowing that, you can feel more self-love, because you are already loved, now, so it’s easier to feel it.

Last but not least, embracing our emotions can help us feel more self-love.

Pushing them away creates pain and suffering, but truly feeling them, no matter how bad they feel, can help you alchemize them. into better feeling emotions.

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How to persevere when opposing forces try to trick you into staying where you are.

I’ve had so much opposition in my life! From parents, to friends, to lovers, to dark entities, to teaching on Facebook and getting 2 likes consistently for a year, to my own Self being lazy and unmotivated.

To the lack of motivation part, I would say the solution came when I realized that the easy way is the solution. If it’s not easy, don’t do it. There are tons of easy things you actually like doing and you’re passionate about, while things that are hard to you, are like swimming against the flow of the river for a fish that’s not salmon.

There are many gurus selling you the idea of working hard and doing it against the grain, and making you feel unworthy if you don’t, however I believe God/The Universe loves you even if you don’t do shizz to prove it, even if you lay there on the couch eating potato chips all day.

When you fight against yourself for doing that, it might come as a great surprise to embrace the idea of doing things that are easy to you. You might even get motivation to do other things, too, because they are easy.

A great book about implementing tiny habits (the easy way) in order to change your life easefully and get motivation is this one.

Ok, I understood how to help myself, but how about when familly, friends and lovers try to oppose me when I’m trying to change my life/do something for myself?

Each person and situation is unique, but I would like to first give you this tip: stay aligned. If it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it or say it. Don’t even think it. Ignore the thought that feels bad and replace it with more positive thoughts.

It’s not that you’re not allowed to ever feel bad, it’s just that the way you feel (your vibration) creates your reality. And to have a positive, satisfying reality, where you love almost everything in your life, you must educate and train yourself to discern between feel-good and feel-bad thoughts and feelings.

If it’s helpful to you, journal about it. What do I believe about my life that feels bad? How can I change my thinking to something that feels at least slightly better? And then a little better? And what can I do to FEEL better right now? Repeat until you feel amazing and then know that you are attracting better things.

Ok, ok, but what if someone in my life doesn’t LET ME feel better? This is just a sign that your past vibration is fighting with the new one. Maybe in your past vibration you let that person tell you what to do, or your past vibration didn’t allow this new thing that feels good to be your reality because you didn’t believe yourself to be worthy and deserving of it.

Remember everyone you meet is you, and they are reflecting your vibration. You can literally say in your mind “this person leaves me alone” and if you believe it and it feels good to you, they will. Your words are magic.

So what I would advise is never compromise your feel goid for another person, but don’t go around screaming and jumping in the middle of the street, without 100% percent believing nobody cares and you will be left alone, because you will get in trouble with the Matrix system we all have in our vibration to some degree or another, because we live on a collective Earth reality where we have been imprinted with societal structures and ancestral pain to clean up.

As a lightworker or starseed, we are here to clear both our own vibrations, and also through clearing that, clearing for the whole collective of souls we came together with in this life. Clearing for our countries, our continents, our planet.

And how do you clear? Choose what feels good. Even inspite of the opposition. Trust your heart, your alignment and your reality will shift.

We have everything inside ourselves to succeed, and sometimes it requires patience and going one step back to analyze what we’re doing consciously and realize what our next feel good step is.

However I think these are the basics of dealing with opposition in our lives – choose the easy route, and what feels good/great/amazing.

Now in dealing with entities, this is much harder and I am no expert, because there are millions of types and of ways in which they can attack you, however what has helped me was going to church, listening to prayers and doing protection magic. You can search protection magic on pinterest and there are tons of chants you can say and things to do to protect yourself and your home. At first they will attack you harder, but if you continue for a few days, you will see it ease up a lot.

Things like Holly water, salt, crystals, pepper, chanting, white candles, banishing, etc.

And I don’t think going to church and white magick don’t go well together, because both feel good to me. And when you do things that feel good, you will come up against many societal standards, but you will still trust what feels good to you.

It’s so simple, God gave us this super easy way to do his will: do what makes you happy and do what feels good to you, and don’t do what feels bad, and you will get exactly where you desire to go in life, even if slowly and in Divine timing, however we are dissensitized from our feelings and consider them unimportant in this world where rational thinking is valued more than our feeling state.

And you can see me, I’m quite rational, but even while I write this, I only choose words that feel good, therefore I channel the highest light possible in this text to be of service, not because I consciously desire it, but because it’s what I’m meant to do and it comes easy to me.

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Are you a princess? Then check this out!

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธMy dad always used to call me as a kid “Daddy’s little princess”. He spoiled me with vacations, gifts, good food (hello, huge jar of caviar) and paid for courses, tennis, dancing classes, English classes, everything I needed.

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธIn return, I was elegant, poised, did extremely well in school, had good self-esteem and had a BIG future ahead of me. A total princess.

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธHowever, Rumpelstiltskin had other plans for me.

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธBecause I was so bright and full of light, the Evil side wanted me to collapse and become Cinderella.

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธSo one day I fell from grace, traumatized, emotionally abused, and I was CURSED by my own CREATRIX power that decided this, to NOT feel again, and to be BAD.

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธYears and years, I walked through dark, thorny forrests, with only a small lamp full of flies, the Light of my consciousness.

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธI didn’t remember who I was, what my purpose was, and instead of following my feel good, I let my ego dictate and followed what others wanted for me, getting lost deeeep in the forrest of my own thoughts.

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธOne day, my King Brother woke me up from the deep slumber I was in, by giving me Snake Poison – a rude awakening, and in small doses, helpful and motivating.

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธAnd SO I began my Journey: started meditating, practicing presence, self care, self love, self compassion, forgave myself, went through big shifts, dark nights of the soul and in a “short” 10 years I was back to my Princessy-ass SELF.

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธI learned how to manifest, and as I was manifesting a million dollars to travel, my King Brother invited me to a one week trip to the foreign land of Amsterdam. We spent a beautiful time, sipping coffee, trying out magic mushrooms, and admiring the Kingdom.

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธAs I was manifesting my best life, my friends asked me out to restaurants where I sipped enchanting beverages such as Bailey’s Frappes, Kiwi and Mango Lemonade, and had ravishing dishes such as chinese beef with rice (a foreign dish to these lands). Did I pay for it? Of course not. Does a Princess ever pay for joy and happiness, being spoiled and having lovely conversations over dinner? HELL NO!!

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธAfter that I had other amazing experiences, letters of love by my one and only Twin Flame, looks and offers from other admirers that I cordially refused, not caring one bit that they’d suffer from my refusal, because I knew that if it’s not my prefference, they won’t suffer, and if they did, it was a good lesson for them to get past rejection – therefore my secret princessy NO is always divinely accurate and healing.

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธChampagne, perfume, clothes, being divinely supported – all happened to me and are still happening whilst I value my alignment and use all the tools I have learned in those almost 10 years of re-learning and self development.

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธI’m gifting all I have learned, in “The Manifesting Princess” to 20 other Princesses who have been struggling, need help manifesting, need help aligning, creating boundaries and being their best version, for a small price. 5000$ for 90 days of calling it into existence, casting, magical dwellings, heaps of self confidence, teachings of self love and self care and an abundance of good advice from a Princess that was trapped in her tower for so long, and came back STRONGER than ever before. Now she gets to have it all, and so can you!

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธThe course contains TWENTY (click to read) 90 minute lives in a private Facebook group, 2 coaching calls and year long access in the group, to help you manifest all of your desires!

The course starts the 2nd of December!

๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธBook a 30 min call with me here to talk more about it and see if you want to get in, or e-mail me at imondo.dona@gmail.com , or if you want to buy it, buy now here:

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What keeps us from having more MONEY than we can possibly hold in our hands

What keeps us from having more money than we could possibly hold in our hands, is quite simply, our beliefs.

When we are aligned with the energy of receiving money constantly, consistently, for the work that we love and our passionate about, clients, opportunities and money flocks to use in immesurate amounts.

Quite simply, the more money we believe we are worthy and deserving of getting, the more we receive it, easefully.

I’ve been interested in selling my course, “The Manifesting Princess” to my audience on Facebook.

Here is what I’m offering in the course:

The 20 LIVES in my coaching container for 20 beings will have these topics:

๐ŸŒธ1. ALIGNMENT & BOUNDARIES – How to stay aligned even when everybody in your life energetically tells you otherwise and what is deep alignment

๐ŸŒธ2. BOUNDARIES – How to always know how and when to say a profund, complete NO and how to take time for yourself when you need it without sacrificing business, money, relationships

๐ŸŒธ3. FREEDOM – How to feel free within yourself, how to use your throat chakra to ask for whatever you want and get it, + journalling techniques to feel FREE

๐ŸŒธ4. LIMITING BELIEFS – We work together to debunk any limiting beliefs you might have regarding money, relationships and health. I show you how I do it.

๐ŸŒธ5. MANIFESTING (1) – My 2 Pinterest techniques that have worked wonders for me, and how to use them – we do this together as a DIY project and you get to use this technique for the next 30 days and start again afterwards if you’d like.

๐ŸŒธ6. MANIFESTING MONEY – Why it is not just given to you, what is required from you to make the money you desire out of your PURE PASSION, + how to be visible AF

๐ŸŒธ7. MANIFESTING RELATIONSHIPS – How I made my toxic, semi-abusive boyfriend be extra-nice to me, treat me like a Princess and shift his way of ating towards me completely by using just WORDS + How to get your SP.

Extra: in the group, I will share all of my favorite affirmation tapes, subliminals, people I follow, etc, that helped me manifest amazing things.

๐ŸŒธ8. MANIFESTING AMAZING EXPERIENCES – God doesn’t always want you to have exactly what you want NOW (spoiler alert!! ๐Ÿ˜…), he wants you to first learn enough so when you get there, you know what to do and how to act, however he does want you to have an enjoyable time on Earth while you learn, if you let him. So I will teach you how I live in a state of almost permanent joy and ease and how to have amazing experiences coming to you out of nowhere!โ€ฆwhile you’re manifesting the BIG stuff.

๐ŸŒธ9. MANIFESTING IN GENERAL – You have no idea how much this one live will change your life – I have spent 12 years learning how to manifest, since I first heard about the Law of Attraction, and I’m sharing all I know with you!

๐ŸŒธ10. MANIFESTING WEIGHT LOSS/BODY CHANGES: How I lost 22 kgs (50 pounds) in 1.5 months by clearing my limiting beliefs and believing, affirming and being on a super easy diet. + any desired physical changes

๐ŸŒธ11. DEALING WITH OPPOSITION – Could be people, entities, whatever it is, I can show you how I dealt with narcissists, envy, mental health issues, authority, patriarchy, etc.

๐ŸŒธ12. CREATIVITY – How to open up your creative portal, and be able to paint with your hands (litterally and figuratively), Cook with intention, channel when you write and not have any creative blocks.

๐ŸŒธ13. VISIBILITY/SHAME – How to be visible and not care what other people think, how many likes you get and just DO YOU forever!

๐ŸŒธ14. CLEARING CHAKRAS: Everything you need to know.

๐ŸŒธ15. EXCITEMENT, JOY, PASSION: How to live that life you most desire NOW.

๐ŸŒธ16. BUSINESS : How to not be afraid to sell high(er) ticket, how to start/scale the business you most enjoy doing NOW, how to do it with EASE.

๐ŸŒธ17. HOW TO HOLD YOUR VISION UNTIL YOU GET THERE – I am one to never give up. I have always had a vision growing up and although I have gone through torment and upheaval, I have always woken up the next day and started again. I want to teach you how and why to be a woman that never gives up.

๐ŸŒธ18. EASEFUL ROUTINE – The most important part of manifestation is changing your vibration to align to your desired reality, so that also needs a change/shift in routine. I will give you great exemples of routines that work/have worked for me in the past and then create a routine for each one of you that you can follow.

๐ŸŒธ19. FEMININE RITUALS – Get in touch with your feminini and do some white witchcraft/self care rituals with me in order to attract more looks/mates/wealth/abundance/money

๐ŸŒธ20. BECOME THE CREATRIX – Sure, you’ve heard it, you are the creator of your reality, but do you understand that on a deeper level? Leave this course imprinted with the awareness that you create everything that exists. Much love.

For this course, I could have easilly asked for 10k, but this course is officially – 5.000 $
Schedule a Discovery call if you want to know even more juicy details and see if we are a match. ๐Ÿ™ƒ๐Ÿ˜ Or buy here directly:

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How to rewrite your past (in order to manifest better)

To explain this topic better, I first have to explain parallel realities.

Think about the word ‘tomorrow’. You read it in the present. And now you read this in the present. You also read “you said it” (past) in the present. You’re thinking about the past or the future, but you’re always doing it in the present now moment.

You see, great meditators who awaken from the illusion of Maia, realize this concept profoundly. Everything happens at once, as well as nothing ever happened, life is a dream/illusion.

Think about a movie. You can stop it at minute 12:15, and then at minute 12:16. You can screenshoot it, and take one image to China and one to the United States.

Although the movie seems to have a logical, linear story, you can mess up all the images in it and spread them all over the world.

That’s sort of how reality is. That means your most wanted desires happen now, and so do your worst nightmares. And everything you can possibly ever imagine exists in the timeless NOW, and you can align with it if you align to its frequency (how would it feel to you NOW to have that reality – think about it often until it gains momentum and it manifests).

So on the subject of changing your past, you can basically decide what your past was, and change it up as you wish.

Even though it might not feel true to your mind, that’s the only place that past exists – your mind. Otherwise you have no concrete proof of it in the present moment.

So change the story – I’ve been traumatized in my life enormosuly (in the linear story I align to now as I say this), however I made a small but important effort to say that I’ve always been happy, I always had everything I needed, I always had amazingly loving parents and every circumstance in my life was always extremely favorable.

That not only makes me feel better, but also helps me manifest better.

The stories we keep telling ourselves are so important. Because if in our minds we keep repeating our traumas, our sad, victimized stories, what we will get in our realities is proof that we are victims of our circumstances, proof that we can never succeed if we were abused and after many, many years from those abuses – you can already call it procrastination from doing what we desire and changing our habits and our circumstances because we were once in pain. And we keep recreating that pain.

Now nobody is saying you shouldn’t love yourself through the pain, love your inner child that got hurt. Nobody says you aren’t entitled to be angry or upset about what happened to you, however as you empower yourself and decide to shift that reality and live a better one, you can change the narative, the story into something that feels good, so that you also shift your vibration and attract better.

You can even change the people in the story and how they treated you, you can say and imagine how they treated you well, and forgive them for any hurt that they’ve caused.

If these people are still in your life, you might actually see a shift in them, too, after you have done this.

Again, no one is saying you are not entitled to your pain (no matter how big or small), however if you are at the point of wanting to shift from it, this is how to do it.

If it’s easier for you to write this new story out, by all means, do it. And if it’s easier to think about it or say it out loud, these are also relevant and ok options.

I hope I have helped. If you need further help, I could not recommend this next book more. Most of what I know is from this guy, Bentinho Massaro. He basically saved my ass from huge depression and helped me manifest a much better life for myself. The book is called: “Super Accelerated Living – How to manifest an epic life” and you can get it here. Hope this helps!

Much love!

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How to change deeply-rooted beliefs in your subconscious

Subconscious beliefs, along with conscious ones, dictate what happens in our reality.

Say if we believe we are ugly and nobody likes us, naturally people won’t look as much at us when we walk down the street, or even if they do, in our minds we would conclude that they’re definitely not looking at us thinking we are interesting or beautiful/handsome.

It doesn’t even matter how you look, you could be the ugliest person in the room, if your beliefs match the idea that you are handsome/beautiful, than you will shine brightly, people will notice you and you will get many more interactions that confirm your belief that you are handsome/beautiful, like compliments, flirting, etc.

It’s easy to say that ok, I’ll change my belief now that I know this, and say I look great all the time, or that I have a lot of money, or whatever you want to change in your beliefs, but if you don’t BELIEVE it, on a subconscious level, on the level in which you were first impregnated with the idea that you are not beautiful enough, your outer reflections will stay the same.

So here’s my most trusted technique with which I changed many of my subconscious beliefs, and that is a journalling technique.

For example, in the example that I gave, on being beautiful/handsome, I would open up a notebook, and I would write: “What keeps me from being beautiful/handsome”.

Or, as another example: “What keeps me from making 1 million dollars a year”

On both these examples, reality-based, with concrete, evidence-based responses are not what I’m interested in getting as an answer.

More so, I want you to notice where in your body you contract/you have a negative feeling when you imagine having the reality you desire (in this example, being handsome/beautiful or having a lot of money).

I want you to breathe into that resistance, and see the images that come up.

Then you can journal what comes up, and find what, on a subconscious level, is keeping you from that. That can be a memory from your childhood (many times that’s where these beliefs stem from), or it could be an irrational fear, a shame, or a feeling of guilt.

As I always say, what doesn’t feel good in your body is not true, and what feels amazing is always true.

Which means what is true for us as beings is that we are loved, we are amazing, creative, courageous, beautiful/handsome, desirable, loveable, and all the things that feel amazing.

And the fact that we are not all those things, is not true, we believe in the opposite because that’s what our society has raised us to believe, to sell us more of their products and keep us believing we are small, unattractive, unimportant and not able to create our own realities.

That’s why I always say: we must call ourselves the most amazing beings in the Universe, and praise ourselves in all the ways, and call ourselves beautiful, loving names, and always love ourselves, because that creates a good vibration within our bodies, and so we naturally attract better things.

Staying in a victim mentality, where we are never good enough, we believe negative things about ourselves, creates realities in which these believes are reinforced: we have emotionally draining and toxic relationships that keep showing us our negative beliefs, and we never get exactly where we would want to be in life.

So the secret to uncovering subconscious, negative beliefs, is actually FEELING. Feeling where you don’t believe yourself to be enough. Feeling where you don’t already feel rich. Feeling where you are not the best person in your life.

And then putting it into words, as well as you can.

After that, what I’ve learned is it is very important to create new, positive beliefs, and repeat them daily.

So for example: “I am handsome/beautiful” or “I make a million dollars a year”.

The more you repeat, the more you will feel like that’s what is true. Plus, the more you repeat, the more the opposite that you already believe will show up, and it will be easier for you to see it if you just feel into it, and make sense of the belief you are holding. Then, keep believing and repeating the positive affirmation some more, until it feel like the easiest, most natural thing to you.

Of course the million dollars won’t come to you in a second (most likely), but the Universe always responds with creative ideas, opportunities, and things to do to take aligned action and create that million in your life. So it’s dependent upon you to create that, but if you already feel like a millionaire, all the time, even when you do the dishes or swipe your living room, even when you don’t have anything in your bank account, you will receive more than enough to be able to create and learn (to sell, to be a business person, to create better, etc ) through this journey we call Life.