How to create healthy boundaries and say no when you mean it

I used to be the type of person who said yes to things she really meant to say no to, and that was hurting me a lot because I made decisions that led me to take actions that were not good for my soul and hurt my soul deeply.

So the first thing that helped me shift this, was desiring to shift it. – desire is powerful!

And the next really helpful step was praying that I can shift it, and believing I will receive help.

I decided that even if my voice was trembling and shaking, I would still say no when I needed to.

And so now I am a person who can say no to almost anyone and any situation.

I held my ex-boyfriend outside in the cold, with him trying any tactic on Earth to try to seduce me and get inside and I still said no.

And this is all because I realized that even if by saying no I’m perceiving the other person to get hurt, if I say yes, I hurt myself. So I decided to put myself first.

Alignment to self is more important than what other people say, do or think, because by feeling great inside with our decisions, we heal other people, too.

Even if when we say no, the other person gets seemingly hurt, they might have a lesson to learn from that pain. Because life is not without pain, that is impossible. But the lessons we learn from that pain are also valuable.

So if you want to say no, but are afraid you might hurt another, know that you are not hurting, but helping.

What you seek is seeking you, so if your truth is a no, you will be mesmerized how quickly people will actually accept it, when you really mean it and say it assuredly.

Do what you want in life! You only have one life, at least with this character you’re playing now and these circumstances.

Don’t do what others want you to do, unless it feels good to you. Otherwise you are hurting yourself!

And you are a very special, important human being. Why would you accept being treated badly or doing something that does not feel good to you?

Believe in your worth, affirm that you have a lot of self worth and you matter and you will never let anyone step on you ever again!

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How to lose weight using the Law of Attraction (part 1)

Losing weight is an issue that many people on this planet are facing, and part of the reason we are still facing it is because we believe what we ingest makes us gain weight.

You heard me! The food you eat does not make you gain weight, it’s how you see it.

A little more on this later, but let me first tell you the second reason why people gain weight, especially women: to protect themselves from unwanted advances.

Somehow we believe that if we look less atractive, we won’t be victims to possible rape (it’s also a past life issue), advances we don’t know how to turn down, etc.

A third reason is we equate the pleasure we get from eating to the pleasure and excitement we would love to get elsewhere.

A good way to get over this is to journal what trully gives you excitement in life (aside from food) and start implementing those actions in your day to day life.

So whenever you want to eat excessively, you have your list of things that give you MORE pleasure than eating. Once you do those, you will see the hunger disappears.

So, as I promised I’m going to now talk about the first reason people gain weight, and that is believing their food makes them gain.

A guy I know once told his audience that “you can basically ingest a gallon of toxic waste and still be perfectly healthy, if your mind believes it”, reason being everything is devoid of meaning, including a gallon of toxic waste, and it only takes on the meaning that we assign to it.

This quote resonated deeply within me, since it is something I intuitively believed my entire life. Our mind creates the reality we perceive, and we can change that reality by what we believe about it

Therefore at some point in my journey I started repeating to myself “food makes you lose weight” and repeated with every single food that I believed would make me gain like bread, pastry, etc, that it makes me lose weight.

Plus, I repeated to myself inspite even nasty comments from other People that “I am slim” and inspite my own beliefs and thoughts that said otherwise.

Now I must admit, I haven’t spent A LOT of time doing this, so the results are for now me not gaining weight even though I eat a lot, but that’s good enough. From the way I am currently eating, I should be probably around 200 pounds when in reality I weigh much less.

There are also great ways to lose weight like listening to subliminals and affirmations over night repeatedly, for long periods of time (minimum 30 days)

Two of my favorite YouTube subliminal/affirmation creators are Dylan James (affirmations) and Serenity Now Mindful Meditation (subliminals). For subliminals, I also like and use Beauty Krystallized.

To read part 2 of this article and learn even more about this subiect, click here.

Remember, sometimes your brain needs to believe it is losing weight, so if you feel like these 5 star rated suplements could help you believe more, by all means check them out.

What have been your experiences with weight loss and the LOA? Comment below!

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My TOP 5 personal development books to read this fall

This fall I have started reading a few good books and I would love to recommend them to you.

Reading is a way to enhance your inner world, your vocabulary and your way of seeing the world.

Self development books shift not just your inner world, but your outer world, too, because, after all that is their purpose: to shift your life in some way or another.

DISCLAIMER: Affiliate links are used in this article, which means I might get a small commission if you decide to buy through one or more of my links, with no extra cost for you. Don’t worry though, I have actually read these books, I would not recommend something I know nothing about.

So, here it goes, my list:

1.Tiny Habits: The small changes that change everything

Link to buy: https://amzn.to/3AwALL4

I’m starting with this book because this book has helped me tremendously change my habits, for example I used to procrastinate on tidying my home and ended up surrounded by a big mess, and I had to clean it all at once (aka call my mom to help me), but now I’m doing a little bit every day and the house is much tidier. And for any habit you would want to implement your life, in order to be more successful, in this book lies the solution. The idea is in seeing where you are already implementing it, and adding to that. It doesn’t require motivation or hard work, the author, Dr. BJ Fogg , makes it easy for you.

2. Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness

Link to buy: https://amzn.to/3FE2I7c

Vex King, the Instagram-famous author, teaches the art of self love in this book, for anyone who doesn’t know how to love themseles and remove fear from their life.

The biggest thing I took from this book was that I am loved and loveable even if I don’t do anything at all, that doing does not equate love, you can just be and be loved.

Another important aspect of this book is that it teaches you that you are important, and how to speak up for yourself.

All in all, it’s a great book for young people or those who haven’t read that much on self-development, so it’s a great starting book.

3. Get Out of Your Head: Stopping the Spiral of Toxic Thoughts

Link to buy: https://amzn.to/3asEVJi

This is a great book for those that keep spiralling in their minds all day and keep recreating negative thoughts, therefore negative realities.

It provides simple, easy to use solutions to our negative thinking, helping us to think more positively. What we learn is that we trully have a choice, we don’t have to be prisoners to our minds.

This is also a Christ-centered book, for christians or those who have a strong connection to God/relligion. I wouldn’t recommend it if you’re an atheist, but I would strongly recommend it if you are not!

4. Holy Hot Mess: Finding God in the Details of this Weird and Wonderful Life

Link to buy: https://amzn.to/3lwqtWW

A great book for those of us who are messy, disorganised, and just big klutzes because it helps us come to terms with ourselves as we are, knowing that we are loved by God no matter what. It teaches us the beauty of being exactly who we are, and being loved accepted for exactly that. Full of funny, disarming stories. Once you pick up this book you won’t want to put it down.

5. The Miracle Morning: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed to Transform Your Life (Before 8AM)

Link to buy: https://amzn.to/3apukin

Although I’m about to write a whole article about this, about the power of starting a routine, and the power of waking up early, this book contains a much more extensive explanation on the subject. When we wake up earlier than the rest of the world, we have an advantage. And waking up early an doing the things the author talks about in the book, can definitely help change your life. So start today, and get the book! It helped me tremendously.