How to create healthy boundaries and say no when you mean it

I used to be the type of person who said yes to things she really meant to say no to, and that was hurting me a lot because I made decisions that led me to take actions that were not good for my soul and hurt my soul deeply.

So the first thing that helped me shift this, was desiring to shift it. – desire is powerful!

And the next really helpful step was praying that I can shift it, and believing I will receive help.

I decided that even if my voice was trembling and shaking, I would still say no when I needed to.

And so now I am a person who can say no to almost anyone and any situation.

I held my ex-boyfriend outside in the cold, with him trying any tactic on Earth to try to seduce me and get inside and I still said no.

And this is all because I realized that even if by saying no I’m perceiving the other person to get hurt, if I say yes, I hurt myself. So I decided to put myself first.

Alignment to self is more important than what other people say, do or think, because by feeling great inside with our decisions, we heal other people, too.

Even if when we say no, the other person gets seemingly hurt, they might have a lesson to learn from that pain. Because life is not without pain, that is impossible. But the lessons we learn from that pain are also valuable.

So if you want to say no, but are afraid you might hurt another, know that you are not hurting, but helping.

What you seek is seeking you, so if your truth is a no, you will be mesmerized how quickly people will actually accept it, when you really mean it and say it assuredly.

Do what you want in life! You only have one life, at least with this character you’re playing now and these circumstances.

Don’t do what others want you to do, unless it feels good to you. Otherwise you are hurting yourself!

And you are a very special, important human being. Why would you accept being treated badly or doing something that does not feel good to you?

Believe in your worth, affirm that you have a lot of self worth and you matter and you will never let anyone step on you ever again!

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How to persevere when opposing forces try to trick you into staying where you are.

I’ve had so much opposition in my life! From parents, to friends, to lovers, to dark entities, to teaching on Facebook and getting 2 likes consistently for a year, to my own Self being lazy and unmotivated.

To the lack of motivation part, I would say the solution came when I realized that the easy way is the solution. If it’s not easy, don’t do it. There are tons of easy things you actually like doing and you’re passionate about, while things that are hard to you, are like swimming against the flow of the river for a fish that’s not salmon.

There are many gurus selling you the idea of working hard and doing it against the grain, and making you feel unworthy if you don’t, however I believe God/The Universe loves you even if you don’t do shizz to prove it, even if you lay there on the couch eating potato chips all day.

When you fight against yourself for doing that, it might come as a great surprise to embrace the idea of doing things that are easy to you. You might even get motivation to do other things, too, because they are easy.

A great book about implementing tiny habits (the easy way) in order to change your life easefully and get motivation is this one.

Ok, I understood how to help myself, but how about when familly, friends and lovers try to oppose me when I’m trying to change my life/do something for myself?

Each person and situation is unique, but I would like to first give you this tip: stay aligned. If it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it or say it. Don’t even think it. Ignore the thought that feels bad and replace it with more positive thoughts.

It’s not that you’re not allowed to ever feel bad, it’s just that the way you feel (your vibration) creates your reality. And to have a positive, satisfying reality, where you love almost everything in your life, you must educate and train yourself to discern between feel-good and feel-bad thoughts and feelings.

If it’s helpful to you, journal about it. What do I believe about my life that feels bad? How can I change my thinking to something that feels at least slightly better? And then a little better? And what can I do to FEEL better right now? Repeat until you feel amazing and then know that you are attracting better things.

Ok, ok, but what if someone in my life doesn’t LET ME feel better? This is just a sign that your past vibration is fighting with the new one. Maybe in your past vibration you let that person tell you what to do, or your past vibration didn’t allow this new thing that feels good to be your reality because you didn’t believe yourself to be worthy and deserving of it.

Remember everyone you meet is you, and they are reflecting your vibration. You can literally say in your mind “this person leaves me alone” and if you believe it and it feels good to you, they will. Your words are magic.

So what I would advise is never compromise your feel goid for another person, but don’t go around screaming and jumping in the middle of the street, without 100% percent believing nobody cares and you will be left alone, because you will get in trouble with the Matrix system we all have in our vibration to some degree or another, because we live on a collective Earth reality where we have been imprinted with societal structures and ancestral pain to clean up.

As a lightworker or starseed, we are here to clear both our own vibrations, and also through clearing that, clearing for the whole collective of souls we came together with in this life. Clearing for our countries, our continents, our planet.

And how do you clear? Choose what feels good. Even inspite of the opposition. Trust your heart, your alignment and your reality will shift.

We have everything inside ourselves to succeed, and sometimes it requires patience and going one step back to analyze what we’re doing consciously and realize what our next feel good step is.

However I think these are the basics of dealing with opposition in our lives – choose the easy route, and what feels good/great/amazing.

Now in dealing with entities, this is much harder and I am no expert, because there are millions of types and of ways in which they can attack you, however what has helped me was going to church, listening to prayers and doing protection magic. You can search protection magic on pinterest and there are tons of chants you can say and things to do to protect yourself and your home. At first they will attack you harder, but if you continue for a few days, you will see it ease up a lot.

Things like Holly water, salt, crystals, pepper, chanting, white candles, banishing, etc.

And I don’t think going to church and white magick don’t go well together, because both feel good to me. And when you do things that feel good, you will come up against many societal standards, but you will still trust what feels good to you.

It’s so simple, God gave us this super easy way to do his will: do what makes you happy and do what feels good to you, and don’t do what feels bad, and you will get exactly where you desire to go in life, even if slowly and in Divine timing, however we are dissensitized from our feelings and consider them unimportant in this world where rational thinking is valued more than our feeling state.

And you can see me, I’m quite rational, but even while I write this, I only choose words that feel good, therefore I channel the highest light possible in this text to be of service, not because I consciously desire it, but because it’s what I’m meant to do and it comes easy to me.

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The benefits of living a life of ease and how to do it!

A few years ago I was a stressed out mess, I worked a 9-5 job that took all my power away and I was constantly worrying : when will I succeed? When will I have enough money?

I stumbled upon a few articles like this one that talked about living in ease. The thought of trying the easy way sounded good at a time when all I did was hard, however I was skeptical. How could not doing anything all day bring me all that I wanted and needed?

However I decided to give it a try.

I repeated the words “easy, Dona, easy” in my mind every half a minute or so to see what decision I could take next that would help me live more easefully.

I relaxed as much as I could, even while doing harder tasks, like at my then-job as a cashier.

When I was in conflict with someone, I repeated the same words and the conflict would find resolution. Why? Because instead of contracting and stressing out, I would find the more peaceful way out of it.

The more I did this , the more it became a way of living. The more I made decisions that were in line with this.

And the more even harder tasks became easier because I was rested.

We know that stress causes most illnesses, so why is it that our masculine, action – driven society keeps telling us to use force when taking action? Instead the feminine ease and flow.

Why are we not taught this in schools? Ease does not make you lazy, it makes you more relaxed in all that you do.

It also gives great results abundance-wise. Since I’ve been living a life of ease, I’ve had more money and gifts coming to me out of nowhere than ever before.

Somehow, the more I stressed, the less money I made.

The more I relaxed, the easier life has become.

What you are, you attract. So you can attract a life that is easy, where everything comes to you easilly, if that’s what you show the Universe you are/you believe yourself to be.

It’s as simple as always choosing the easy path. And it has real benefits! I can attest to those, so can a couple of my friends who have tried it.

Now go on, live a life of ease. You are worthy of destressing and putting the hardships down! You are worthy of relaxing. You are allowed to do so!

Please try it out and tell me how it went!

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