How to create healthy boundaries and say no when you mean it

I used to be the type of person who said yes to things she really meant to say no to, and that was hurting me a lot because I made decisions that led me to take actions that were not good for my soul and hurt my soul deeply.

So the first thing that helped me shift this, was desiring to shift it. – desire is powerful!

And the next really helpful step was praying that I can shift it, and believing I will receive help.

I decided that even if my voice was trembling and shaking, I would still say no when I needed to.

And so now I am a person who can say no to almost anyone and any situation.

I held my ex-boyfriend outside in the cold, with him trying any tactic on Earth to try to seduce me and get inside and I still said no.

And this is all because I realized that even if by saying no I’m perceiving the other person to get hurt, if I say yes, I hurt myself. So I decided to put myself first.

Alignment to self is more important than what other people say, do or think, because by feeling great inside with our decisions, we heal other people, too.

Even if when we say no, the other person gets seemingly hurt, they might have a lesson to learn from that pain. Because life is not without pain, that is impossible. But the lessons we learn from that pain are also valuable.

So if you want to say no, but are afraid you might hurt another, know that you are not hurting, but helping.

What you seek is seeking you, so if your truth is a no, you will be mesmerized how quickly people will actually accept it, when you really mean it and say it assuredly.

Do what you want in life! You only have one life, at least with this character you’re playing now and these circumstances.

Don’t do what others want you to do, unless it feels good to you. Otherwise you are hurting yourself!

And you are a very special, important human being. Why would you accept being treated badly or doing something that does not feel good to you?

Believe in your worth, affirm that you have a lot of self worth and you matter and you will never let anyone step on you ever again!

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