Subconscious beliefs, along with conscious ones, dictate what happens in our reality.
Say if we believe we are ugly and nobody likes us, naturally people won’t look as much at us when we walk down the street, or even if they do, in our minds we would conclude that they’re definitely not looking at us thinking we are interesting or beautiful/handsome.
It doesn’t even matter how you look, you could be the ugliest person in the room, if your beliefs match the idea that you are handsome/beautiful, than you will shine brightly, people will notice you and you will get many more interactions that confirm your belief that you are handsome/beautiful, like compliments, flirting, etc.
It’s easy to say that ok, I’ll change my belief now that I know this, and say I look great all the time, or that I have a lot of money, or whatever you want to change in your beliefs, but if you don’t BELIEVE it, on a subconscious level, on the level in which you were first impregnated with the idea that you are not beautiful enough, your outer reflections will stay the same.
So here’s my most trusted technique with which I changed many of my subconscious beliefs, and that is a journalling technique.
For example, in the example that I gave, on being beautiful/handsome, I would open up a notebook, and I would write: “What keeps me from being beautiful/handsome”.
Or, as another example: “What keeps me from making 1 million dollars a year”
On both these examples, reality-based, with concrete, evidence-based responses are not what I’m interested in getting as an answer.
More so, I want you to notice where in your body you contract/you have a negative feeling when you imagine having the reality you desire (in this example, being handsome/beautiful or having a lot of money).
I want you to breathe into that resistance, and see the images that come up.
Then you can journal what comes up, and find what, on a subconscious level, is keeping you from that. That can be a memory from your childhood (many times that’s where these beliefs stem from), or it could be an irrational fear, a shame, or a feeling of guilt.
As I always say, what doesn’t feel good in your body is not true, and what feels amazing is always true.
Which means what is true for us as beings is that we are loved, we are amazing, creative, courageous, beautiful/handsome, desirable, loveable, and all the things that feel amazing.
And the fact that we are not all those things, is not true, we believe in the opposite because that’s what our society has raised us to believe, to sell us more of their products and keep us believing we are small, unattractive, unimportant and not able to create our own realities.
That’s why I always say: we must call ourselves the most amazing beings in the Universe, and praise ourselves in all the ways, and call ourselves beautiful, loving names, and always love ourselves, because that creates a good vibration within our bodies, and so we naturally attract better things.
Staying in a victim mentality, where we are never good enough, we believe negative things about ourselves, creates realities in which these believes are reinforced: we have emotionally draining and toxic relationships that keep showing us our negative beliefs, and we never get exactly where we would want to be in life.
So the secret to uncovering subconscious, negative beliefs, is actually FEELING. Feeling where you don’t believe yourself to be enough. Feeling where you don’t already feel rich. Feeling where you are not the best person in your life.
And then putting it into words, as well as you can.
After that, what I’ve learned is it is very important to create new, positive beliefs, and repeat them daily.
So for example: “I am handsome/beautiful” or “I make a million dollars a year”.
The more you repeat, the more you will feel like that’s what is true. Plus, the more you repeat, the more the opposite that you already believe will show up, and it will be easier for you to see it if you just feel into it, and make sense of the belief you are holding. Then, keep believing and repeating the positive affirmation some more, until it feel like the easiest, most natural thing to you.
Of course the million dollars won’t come to you in a second (most likely), but the Universe always responds with creative ideas, opportunities, and things to do to take aligned action and create that million in your life. So it’s dependent upon you to create that, but if you already feel like a millionaire, all the time, even when you do the dishes or swipe your living room, even when you don’t have anything in your bank account, you will receive more than enough to be able to create and learn (to sell, to be a business person, to create better, etc ) through this journey we call Life.